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5 Signs You’re in an Abusive Relationship

When most people think of domestic abuse, they often think of domestic violence. However, domestic abuse involves any attempt by an individual to gain control over their intimate partner. This includes both violence and emotional abuse. No matter what form the abuse takes, recognizing that it is abuse is the first step to ending it. 

Abusers use a variety of tactics to exert power and control over their partners. Read on to learn more about some of the red flags. 

Signs Your Relationship Is Abusive 

  1. Dominance. Perpetrators of domestic violence feel the need to be in constant control of every aspect of a relationship. They make all of the decisions and expect you to blindly obey. You may feel more like their child or possession. 
  2. Isolation. An abuser will often try to cut you off from family, friends, work, etc. This is done to increase your dependence on them. If you do leave the home, you’ll most likely need to ask for permission. 
  3. Threats. An abuser will often make various kinds of threats, if you ever decide to leave or file charges. These threats can range from filing false charges against you to suicide and other death threats. 
  4. Degradation. In order to significantly lower your self-esteem, an abuser will resort to insults, shaming, public humiliation and more. The more worthless you feel, the less likely you are to leave. 
  5. Denial. Abusers almost always make excuses for their behavior, or they completely deny it ever happened. They will then shift the responsibility and blame to you. 

Domestic abusers are extremely adept at controlling and manipulating their partners and those around them. They may also use intimidation tactics to insinuate that violence will occur, if “rules” aren’t followed. 

If you suspect you or a loved one is a victim of domestic abuse, there are resources available to help. First, it’s vital to recognize the abuse and know it’s not your fault. 

For help with domestic abuse cases in Iowa, contact James Nelsen P.L.C.